Opinion | A Child Without Father’s Shadow!

Fathers play a role in every child’s life that cannot be filled by others. This role can have a large impact on a child and help shape him or her into the person they become.

Young girls totally depend on their fathers for security and emotional support. If a father is strong and valiant, she will relate closely to men of the same character.

Boys model themselves after their father’s character. Boys will seek approval from their fathers from a very young age. As human beings, we grow up by imitating the behavior of those around us; that’s how we learn to function in the world. If a father is caring and treats people with respect, the young boy will grow up much the same. When a father is absent, young boys look to other male figures to set the “rules” for how to behave and survive in the world.
Everyone has a father, but some are not lucky enough to grow up with a strong father figure in their lives. Whether emotionally or physically, an absence of a father can have detrimental effects on a child, especially girls that grow up with an absent father will have psychological issues later in girls Development
As a child develops, they are shaped by their parents. Girls really look up to their father to make a strong structure in their lives, but if there is no father, girls will create an imaginary representation of who her father really is. Having an absent father also has a positive correlation with self-destructive behaviors. This can include feeling depressed, worthless, and self-blame.
Absence of Father effects on Mental health
Absence of a father in the home to higher risk conditions for mothers and their children. Children that grow up in such households are much more likely to be the victim of mental or physical abuse such as ; Neglect compared with those who grow up in a two-parent household, Aggression, a fatherless home can contribute to a child having more emotional problems, such as anxiety and depression. Fatherless children may start thinking that they are worth less than other children, This may also lead to an increased risk of suicide and/or self-injurious behaviors. Children who do not grow up with a father are also more likely to be aggressive. That surely enforced being isolated from everyone as well as socially.
How to deal with Orphans:
● Talk politely with them
● Understand their problems
● Help then out with (Sadaqah- Jariyah)
● Taking care of them
The Islamic View On Orphans
Taking care of an orphan is not less than a worship but Unfortunately in today’s generation the people didn’t show a bit of sympathy in them… Once Abu Hurairah (RA) reported Allah’s Messenger (SAW) as saying, “The best house among the Muslims is one where an orphan is well treated, and the worst house among the Muslims is one where an orphan is badly treated.” instead of this people are more involved in disputing properties & conflicts.
As Islam has mentioned the clear yet strict instructions regarding the taking care of orphans likewise Islam is very much concerned when it comes to the property of Orphans. Allah says in various verses in Holy Quran regarding the property and wealth of orphans which they have got from their departed fathers.
Allah says in Surah Al-Nisa, verse 2: “And give to the orphans their properties and do not substitute the defective [of your own] for the good [of theirs]. And do not consume their properties into your own. Indeed, that is ever a great sin” [4:2].
Allah is saying in the above verse that never even exchange the properties of orphans with your own property intentionally or unintentionally and never replace the good associations of orphans with your defective associations. Indeed, it is the major sin which will not be forgiven on the Day of Judgment .
Rewards From Allah SWT
● You will be close to the Prophet Muhammed SAW
● You will have ‘the best house’
● You will be among the righteous people
● Your wealth will be blessed
● You will earn the food of Jannah
● It’s an excellent way to pay Zakat monthly to them
● There is so much barakah in orphan sponsorship!
● You will enter Jannah through the gate of Joy.

– The writer, a student, is daughter of Late Gulam Mohammad Gojri. She can be reached at shahanazgojri@gmail.com