Opinion | A Genuine Friend: Myth or Reality!

Friendship that’s regarded as one of the most pious relationships  which is made when two people co-relate over various things and feel secure, trusted and compatible over most of the issues and actions. It is not always necessary that two like minded people would only become friends or people who are the same in nature or people belonging to the same profession would be friends. Friendship is basically heart to heart connection, a relationship which is full of generosity. Friends take care of each other without passing any comments or judgements trying to resolve each other’s problems by listening to each other having faith in each other that no one could break easily defines some of the virtues of an ideal friendship.
Friendship is regarded as a ship where there’s no hatred, no jealousy, no unworthy pinch, no unruly behaviour,  what lies there is only and only compassion which is full of zeal, excitement and jocund memories.
There lies a question: do you people believe that in today’s tech savvy and digitalized world real and selfless friendship’s occur and do you believe that these friendship’s last forever?
This is the twenty-first century and what one finds nowadays is development, digitalization and upgradation in every field  where one finds kids and young adults busy with mobile phones, online gaming  and apps like YouTube, Facebook, Snapchat and Instagram and other such apps whose  number would be increasing only. What these kids do, they even eat food only once mobile phone is given in their hands and they would play game of their choice or would watch a cartoon of their own choice because of which they lose their interest in the social activity called interaction and by and large they don’t find it interesting or something curious or good about to initiate a talk with other kids, trying to mingle with them, making friends and playing outdoor games because of which there’s hindrance in their socialization process and they somehow become introverts and somewhat addicted to the use of mobile phones/ tablets/ i-pods/internet because of which with the passage of time it has a negative impact on their cognitive skills and at the same time it has a malicious impact on their physical health like for example Eye Allergies, Visionary Problems, Being Obese, Mood Swings, Loneliness, Crankiness and what not. When these small small kids become busy in using mobile phones, it’s definitely going to have a toll on their mental health and as well as they won’t have anyone to talk to, when they won’t have ever made a friend, they won’t know about qualities of compromise, understanding, generosity, compassion and ultimately they feel lonely and has no one to express their emotions and no one to make memories of childhood naughtiness, basically no one to share their memory lane with. That’s why it’s high time when it comes to kids  of (0-5) years, (5-12) years, (12-14) Years (15-18) years,  parents should have an eye and toll on kids and should not expose them to mobile phones so easily and should always try to listen to their childish talks, they should never provide them access to mobile phones so easily in order to complete their work or to remain free and feel relaxed and relieved for sometime; it’s entirely wrong.
They should always encourage young kids to make new friends, gain new experiences but with a watch on the company they keep as it’s old saying that a spoilt fish ransacks the whole of a lake. So, exposure to an external environment is much needed and required that it would indeed help in the holistic development of a child as a whole to make him a better person in life.
Now, when it comes to young adults, what about the friendship they make and keep? They are the ones who are always busy in online chatting, making reels and counting their followers. What about them? Do you believe the friendships they are having, most of the time are loyal and kind?
When one talks about today’s world where people are in rush to catch things in life and when they are exposed to digital media at a very young age, they would have made a comfort zone for themselves because of which their nature and personality traits would have become entirely different, they are most likely introverts and sensitive people who won’t like to talk that much to other people, who won’t like to share their inner space with other people most of the times like  for example elderly people at our homes  have numerous stories to narrate with which young growing teens and adults that they could relate, experience and gain momentum. Irony is that these growing teens and adults even don’t have time to talk to their family members/ well wishers as they are busy in their fake digitalized world where they could be having 30k to 100 k followers or even more than that with whom they would have ever met , there could be another reason of detachment of young people with their counterparts and that could be  race to achieve success and fame. In most of the cases it’s success- to achieve success in life at the earliest in order to lead a well established life for that matter they could do anything right/wrong. Yes! It’s another sad reality of the world we are living in is that people want to earn money, reach a stage in life but means could be any fair/unfair. In this journey of people reaching a point in life, many people come and go and at times people make connections to fulfill their selfish interest and then throw that person rather a person who was called friend away from life just as a rotten vegetable peel is thrown in garbage bin and this is where the most used phrase that A friend in need is a friend indeed  sheds its worth away which is a fact of matter of current times where most friendships of people are self- centered and timely where people don’t think about feelings and emotions of others which inturn would get back to them whether good or bad actions,; one has to pay for their deeds in this world only as God promises. In today’s time it’s hard to find a real and genuine friend therefore always try to feel the essence of the flower and regard it  genuinely with all wit and honesty. It’s a fact that whatever would be the core values of a person whether good or bad they are never going to change. That’s why it’s well said that in today’s busy world where no one has time for another person or no one has time to feel and express his views and emotions for another person. That’s why it’s highly regarded that always try to be the reason of ease, smile and relief of others and never think about using deceitful methods in life as Trust is like a GlassPane, once broken can’t be mended and the same applies for friendship if there’s given some space for  keeping misinformation and misunderstanding then that wall would expand its fences but won’t diminish. Hence, it’s always better to be on a journey of becoming a better person in life who would never be on the path to mislead neither himself nor others and would always try to become a better version of himself by never defaming and disregarding  the instincts and emotions of others.