Opinion | The Other Way Round to ‘Kyah Kari Kori Moul’

On the launch of ‘Kyah Kari Kori Moul’ song by COKE STUDIO BHARAT, all the people around Jammu and Kashmir were gaga to the tunes and lyrics of this song which resulted in millions of views to the song and a never-ending fame to the Coke studio. The lyrics of the song are knitted well to form the images that articulate the life of a daughter and daughter in law In Kashmir. The prominence in the song is caught by the exaggerated varieties to the wazwan (Kashmiri feast) of Kashmir and the extravagance of the weddings in Kashmir which are the stepstones to set the trends on in Kashmiri regarding wedding trousseaus, wazwan, guest services, bride-groom cavalcades or other forms of dowry.

Researches have proved these all the things a basic reason to the rise of late marriages, divorces, suicides, domestic violence, corruption, caste-system etc. in Kashmir. Kashmiri boys have also been hard hit by these extravaganza forms of trends. Consequently, the male youth of Kashmir spoke- up about the bias of society towards men while addressing and prioritizing issues regarding violence or marital necessities. Men ushered their dismal and narrated their agonies through social media over the sufferings that they undergo in life for just being men.
After my previous write-up published by The Global Kashmir regarding the song “Kyah kari kori moul” I was flooded with comments and messages reading “Kyah Kari Gobra Moul” (What will boy’s parents do?). While digging deep in the matter I came to know that men are getting into severe issues of cardiac health, mental issues and societal pressure ceasing to which they either get cardiac arrests or take steps as drastic as ending up of life.
The present marriageable females and their parents/well-wishers are like on a hunt to look for a government employee for their daughters or certain castes do not marry out of the caste. The victims of this social pressure also narrated that shopkeepers are not seeking any glorification of social status even if they earn lakhs for a month. Since they are not any high-profile people, they suffer while being married or they don’t get the nod to board the flight of marriage. It was also mentioned by some of the victims of ‘social negligence to men’ that even if they get married, they do not see the life they deserve after marriage for just a certain social status.
Hence, after listening to this cancerous mind-set set by our society to condition relations and life, I am writing this to appeal to all my fellow people across the globe to not be judgmental and greedy. Being non-judgmental must be a basic human value for life that everyone among us must possess. “Men Are also humans and they also get affected” must be understood and acknowledged by us all as humans. Nowadays we see a rise in distressed married relations and divorces which is also the result of the conditions, expectations and self-centered greed that we set up while getting into the relationship.
Maintaining Relationships is not a cake walk but that does not mean it is impossible to maintain them. We need to be humans to each other and each-others family to create a respectful-families. Our concern must be humanity and compatibility while choosing the right partner. Money can never measure love, respect and peace. Yet it is important for our survival.
May Allah (SWT) guide you, me and Everyone with righteousness and bless us with abundant halal earnings. (Aameen)
– The columnist, is an established author of ‘THE MELANCHOLIC TALES OF A HALF ORPHAN’ and a philanthropist. The writer can be reached at refatwani@outlook.com