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Every child wants to make their parents proud. Some dream of becoming doctors, engineers, teachers or officers. Others have different interests and talents. But somewhere along the way, childhood has become a race for marks, ranks and certificates. The pressure to score high often leaves children struggling with fear, stress and the feeling that they are never good enough.
Education is important, but a child’s worth cannot be measured by marks alone.
In many homes, examination results decide the mood of the entire family. A child who scores well receives praise, gifts and appreciation. A child who scores less may face scolding, comparisons and hurtful words. Parents sometimes compare their children with neighbours, relatives or classmates, believing that such comparisons will motivate them. In reality, they can damage a child’s confidence and make them feel inferior.
Every child learns differently. Some understand mathematics quickly, while others express themselves better through writing, art, sports or practical work. Some children need more time to understand a subject. This does not mean they lack intelligence or the ability to succeed.
When parents constantly demand higher marks, children may begin to study only out of fear. They stop enjoying the process of learning and become afraid of making mistakes. For some, even an ordinary examination becomes a source of anxiety. They may hide their problems because they fear disappointing their families.
Parents must understand that their responsibility is not simply to produce high scorers. It is to raise confident, responsible and kind human beings. A few marks cannot decide a child’s future, character or ability to contribute to society.
Teachers and schools also have an important role. They should encourage students, identify their strengths and help them improve without humiliation. A classroom should be a place where children feel safe enough to ask questions, make mistakes and learn from them.
Parents should ask their children whether they understand a lesson, whether they are facing difficulties and whether they feel happy at school. Sometimes, a patient conversation can help more than hours of pressure and repeated instructions.
Success takes different forms. Good marks may open certain doors, but honesty, discipline, creativity, confidence and compassion also matter in life. Children need guidance, not constant criticism. They need encouragement, not comparisons.
Let us remember that childhood does not return. Do not turn a child’s room into a place of fear or the report card into a measure of love. Celebrate effort, support improvement and respect individual abilities.
Our children deserve the chance to learn, grow and discover who they are. Let them study with hope, not fear. Their future matters, but so does their happiness today.
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