Opinion | Enthusiastic Parental Care 

According to Islam, parents should be role models of virtue for their children. Parents should nurture, educate, and train their children to the best of their ability. However, conflicts that call for discipline should also be addressed.

If Creating children is the only eligibility to become a parent, then other creatures are greater parents than so-called human beings. Parenting means to nourish , protect, shelter, love, Parental care and most importantly, to educate . Being young, we have less responsibilities. As we grow up, our responsibilities multiply. We need more money, fame, name, social status. Marriage is never an easy thing, so how can producing kids be easy? Think before producing children because it is a big responsibility, rather the biggest responsibility. I am not against traditions and customs; what you want to do but please think before doing it, lest you fill someone’s life with tears for the sake of your joys.
A parent is not someone who always has to give orders. A parent is someone who has the patience to listen to kids suffering from numerous physical and psychological problems. I have been observing people around me for a long time, and what I found is that almost all kids are running away from their insensitive and narrow-minded parents. Why are modern children afraid to share their problems with their own parents? Are parents some devils who will eat their kids up if the latter talk to them honestly or express their feelings innocently? Why are children able to have thousands of friends outside their homes but the same children are rude to their parents at home? The role of a parent is not to stop a child from following his/her dreams. Most people fail to achieve their goals because their families interfere unnecessarily. Parents always want their kids to be on the top. Why? Is it a problem to be oneself? Why do we have to do what other kids are good at? If Zakir Naik   had been told by his parents to be like Shahruk Khan, what would have happened? If a fish is asked to fly like a sparrow, imagine the consequences.
From day one, a kid is told ‘if you make your clothes dirty, we will beat you. Don’t do this, don’t do that.  Come on, if kids will not experience for themselves, how will they learn the difference between right and wrong? How have parents learnt? You ask your parents how they learn? They will admit that they were allowed to face problems and they learnt to solve problems. If I am facing a problem, I will also find its solution, sooner or later. Why do parents start teaching their children in Hitler style? I believe the things we are stopped from are the things we grow up to love the most. There is a saying, ‘curiosity kills the cat.’ After becoming a parent, never think of your child as your slave. If you think so, you are destroying your relationship with your kid. Eventually, you will lose your child.
Nowadays kids prefer to talk to strangers or on social media whenever and wherever they get a chance. Parents create unnecessary communication gaps between themselves and their children.
Nowadays the depression rate is so high in children of age 10 or more. Do you know the main reason for it? Parents. Because they never give due attention to their kids. Every problem starts at home. We are social beings and we all need a friend to talk with. Do you know why modern kids prefer to have girlfriends or boyfriends? Because they feel alone at their own homes. Children who are not loved at home go outside to find love. My parents discourage me often by asking me about my achievements in life. I have passed the Class 12th board exams and I study medical subjects at college. My parents have never been to schools.They fail to understand that below average kids study arts, average kids study commerce, and brilliant kids study medicine in Kashmir. Almost 80% of parents don’t know what their kids are good at. They never care to learn. They never visit the schools and colleges of their kids to know about their performance and credentials of teachers . Almost all young kids suffer at the hands of elders. Once the same kids become parents, they forget their own childhood and start torturing their own kids. I wonder why the majority of brides turn into a cruel Mother-in -law?
There are almost 90% of parents who fight everyday about silly things, forgetting that their children are around. I know a lot of children who are very delighted in the company of teachers because they are good at studies. Unfortunately, they lose interest in studies due to their unfriendly family environment. They always face a rough time at home. Such kids don’t like to talk to any of their parents. They hate their homes. They never want any friend to come to their homes.
We live in this world for happiness and comfort. When your kid hates you and goes to seek happiness outside the home, that is the time you should realise that you have failed as parents.
Throughout the civilized world governments, institutions, people in authority and the public create rules to protect society in order to establish a safer world. Without these rules and guidance, human beings would lose all bearing and sense of morality, and society would fall into anarchy and chaos. Indeed our children and future generations will be the leaders of tomorrow and thus their upbringing is a matter of great importance and key to whether we can maintain a peaceful, respectful and orderly society. Research strongly indicates that parenting has the single greatest influence on a child’s development and understanding the environment a child grows up in contributes to their emotional, physical, social and intellectual development. And these are key factors that indicate whether a child will grow to become a responsible and happy adult. Thus, positive parenting is essential to safeguard future societies and to foster peace at home and in communities.