Opinion | Shouldering Responsibilities Means Maturity

Responsibilities doesnt see your age; you have to shoulder them, willingly or unwillingly

Responsibility: When the thought about it comes in our mind, we never think about age. In this temporary world, life is very complicated; we forget the real value of a life. If responsibility needs you, it doesnt see your age. Responsibilities come and hardly see if you are eligible or not; if you are willing or not; if you are ready for taking them or not. You have to shoulder them, willingly or unwillingly. You have to tolerate them, no matter how weak your body is; how fragile your shoulders are; and how tender your age is. Responsibility, I repeat, never sees your age whether  you are 10, 12, 1418, 20,30they come and they need your body and soul (neither age nor physical strength).
If we talk about the situation of any family who is suffering for financial issued either  for food and shelter, for education, or for other basic necessities of survival the family never thinks about the future of a child, no matter how much loving and caring they are for their child(ren). This is because of the simple reason that responsibility doesnt need or care about your future, age, career; responsibility comes and it has to be borne, accepted and tolerated.
We all know the demands of the current situations. In the age of 18, 20, 22, the person who is confined and caged in the prison of responsibilities can s/he think about marriage, education, job, and so on. No s/he never: s/he only focuses on how to manage food (basic necessities of life) for himself/ herself and for the family so that to meet the basics of life and  hardly such a person will think, or plan, of making the property or things needed for future. They only want to survive in this world for their family, not for own self.
If you have both food and shelter then what kind of responsibility you are faced with? The answer is as simple as that: We the humans are, by our nature, very greedy. Its fact; but the demands of the contemporary world are very high and huge. We live as per the standards of the society; we are living in a society where everything is seen through competition angle. If we have both food and shelter, then we think about how to make our name and fame; how to be known in our locality/ society, as someone who has a name, mostly in the materialistic aspects. We grow in such mind-set and thus we think in same perspective as well. We have grown up in a society where wealth, riches, means success: satisfaction, peace of mind and soul, even if we are belonging a poor life, is not seen as a symbol of success or contentment. This kind of thinking and mentality, in my opinion, is one of the main causes of depression and frustration (especially among male youth).
Why our society is treating us like Bollywood or like Hollywood movie scenes? Why to forget we are living in reality not in a world of films or fantasy? Why they dont think responsibility or success doesnt mean to grap the money or to have a (luxurious) car; a big ad luxurious home? In the tender age, how a child can think about the responsibilities? Actually in todays time, I believe, people think responsibility is like a race about which Amir Khan mentions in the movie 3 idiots.
Sometimes we cant control and thus take a bad step be it any kind of theft or any other immoral and illegal activity. Who is responsible for this: Age? Responsibilities? Or the society at large? Let the readers answer (or decide) themselves.
It is a fact that responsibility (irrespective of your age) makes you a mature person (the condition is that you a fight it: that you dont kneel down before it but take it as a challenge). If you face the challenges put forth by the responsibility with strength, then you can control it; then responsibility will be not heavy on you. That is, it makes you mature. At this stage, one can have consultation with his/her friends; so that it may create some positive thoughts in you; motivate you; give you strength. But in case there is none (in your relation or in your friend circle) who can understand you, then dont worry: you have a hope which who will never leave you; that is one and the only hope your Creator, your Sustainer, your Cherisher, Lord, your Rabb: He is the first and last hope of every one.

(About Writer :Mudasir Ahmad Naikoo is BA 6th semester student at Govt. Degree College Sogam (Lolab), Kupwara. Feedback at ma0009542@gmail.com)